• Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life (Interpersonal Violence)

    One of the most important books ever written on domestic violence, Coercive Control breaks through entrenched views of physical abuse that have ultimately failed to protect women. Evan Stark, founder of one of America's first battered women's shelters, shows how "domestic violence" is neither primarily domestic nor necessarily violent, but a pattern of controlling behaviors more akin to terrorism and hostage-taking. Drawing on court records, interviews, and FBI statistics, Stark details coercive strategies that men use to deny women their very personhood, from "beeper games" to food logs to micromanaging dress, speech, sexual activity, and work. Stark urges us to move beyond the injury model and focus on the real victimization that allows men to violate women's human rights with impunity. Provocative and brilliantly argued, Coercive Control reframes abuse as a liberty crime rather than a crime of assault and points the way to bringing "real" equality for women in line with their formal rights to personhood and citizenship, freedom and safety.

    • Brand: Oxford University Press USA
    • ASIN: 0195384040

  • Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship

    When you are showered with attention, it can feel incredibly romantic and can blind you to hints of problems ahead. But what happens when attentiveness becomes domination? In some relationships, the desire to control leads to jealousy, threats, micromanaging--even physical violence. If you or someone you care about are trapped in a web of coercive control, this book provides answers, hope, and a way out. Lisa Aronson Fontes draws on both professional expertise and personal experience to help you: *Recognize controlling behaviors of all kinds. *Understand why this destructive pattern occurs. *Determine whether you are in danger and if your partner can change. *Protect yourself and your kids. *Find the support and resources you need. *Take action to improve or end your relationship. *Regain your freedom and independence.

    • Brand: Guilford Publications
    • ASIN: 1462520243

  • Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

    In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued in a relationship, and to find ways to get free of abuse.He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?   You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:   • The early warning signs of abuse• The nature of abusive thinking• Myths about abusers• Ten abusive personality types• The role of drugs and alcohol• What you can fix, and what you can’t• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

    • Brand: Berkley Books
    • ASIN: 0425191656

  • Look What You Made Me Do: A Powerful Memoir of Coercive Control

    For more than two years, BBC Radio 4's The Archers ran a disturbing storyline centred on Helen Tichener's abuse at the hands of her husband Rob. Not the kind of abuse that leaves a bruise, but the sort of coercive control that breaks your spirit and makes it almost impossible to walk away. As she listened to the unfolding story, Helen Walmsley-Johnson was forced to confront her own agonising past. Helen's first husband controlled her life, from the people she saw to what was in her bank account. He alienated her from friends and family, and even from their three daughters. Eventually, he threw her out and she painfully began to rebuild her life. Then, divorced and in her early 40s, she met Franc. Kind, charming, considerate Franc. For 10 years she would be in his thrall, even when he too was telling her what to wear, what to eat, even what to think. Look What You Made Me Do is her candid and utterly gripping memoir of how she was trapped by a smiling abuser, not once but twice. It is a vital guide to recognising, understanding and surviving this sinister form of abuse and its often terrible legacy. It is also an inspirational account of how one woman found the courage to walk away.

    • ASIN: 1978633610
    • UPC: 191091688786

  • What is coercive control? (Digital-Trust Book 1)

    Last year, I helped campaign for a new UK law on Coercive Control. That law was passed in March 2015 and came into force on the 29th of December 2015. While working on the new law, it became clear that what coercive control means isn’t very well understood by victims or the professionals supporting them. We shouldn’t be surprised that victims do not know they’ve been experiencing coercive control, when we are just now getting a law that recognises it. Victims of abuse know that what has been happening to them wasn’t right, but they didn’t understand that it was domestic abuse and now it’s illegal. I’m writing this book for all the women and men who experience the psychological, financial, isolating and monitoring forms of coercive control, so they can understand it and the new law. Educating yourself is the first step in stopping abuse – to go from being a victim to being a survivor.

    • ASIN: B019RR1LS6

  • Only Cry on Fridays: Escaping Coercive Control A true story

    Non fiction reading like a novel A true story, documenting my personal experience of emotional abuse. To the outside world ours was a perfect marriage and my husband an amusing charismatic man. But behind closed doors life couldn’t have been more different. I had never heard the term, Coercive Control, so for years didn’t understand what was happening to me. With this kind of abuse, there are no bruises to see, but the controlling behaviour behind the scenes was frightening and intimidating. Coercive Control, is a complex tapestry, it is a classless, silent abuse without witnesses. Leaving my marriage of thirty years was the bravest thing I have ever done. The second bravest thing, has been to write my experiences down. My diaries and notes made at the time, languished at the bottom of a drawer for years, then, as the Helen Titchner storyline in The Archers, started to gather pace, with every episode, I became increasingly anxious. My heart would palpitate, my mouth became dry, as I listened to what was so familiar in my own married life. Incentivised to bring this hidden abuse into the public domain, this book chronicles my escape from a coercive controlling marriage and the aftermath which I was so unprepared for. Locations and the names of the guilty have been changed to p...

    • ASIN: 1982932759

  • Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

    Could you or someone you know be married to a sociopath? The author of this book was, but it took her twenty years to figure it out. She wrote this book to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to other people. Onna thought the classmate she married was her Prince Charming—kind, honest, loving, and intellectually vibrant—but she was wrong. That “spark” she felt wasn’t true love, it was a trap—custom designed to ensnare her. Onna’s repayment for investing twenty years into her marriage and unwittingly providing her husband with a façade of normalcy was ongoing gaslighting and chronic emotional assault, all twisted and framed so she would attribute them to her own apparent shortcomings. By the time she understood what was really happening, her emotional, physical and financial health were in peril. Why did her husband do it? Because that’s what sociopaths do. Sociopaths are far more common than most people imagine. To help others recognize the subtle warning signs that they might be in the crosshairs of a well-camouflaged sociopath, Onna shares her story while detailing the techniques her ex-husband used to control her behavior and erode her self-esteem. She also explores the psychological research regarding why such methods are so effective, why it is hard to ...

    • ASIN: B016APS1SG